Straight off the bat I’m going to be honest. I’m not a prude. I personally listen to music with swearing in it. It doesn’t bother me. But often couples will ask me if they should have songs with explicit language as a part of their wedding. Let’s explore that …
At the end of the day, I tell each couple that it is THEIR wedding and THEY know their guests better than I do. So if they want songs with explicit lyrics in it I will play them. However, I also ask them to truly question themselves if they really know all of their guests. There are a lot of people at a wedding and some you might not know as well as you think you do.
How would you feel if even one of your guests felt very uncomfortable when a song is played that contains explicit lyrics? The goal is to ensure every single one of your guests has a great time.
Sure, I can play clean edits (if I can source them), but often even the “clean” edits leaves little to the imagination of what word is supposed to fit into that blanked out bit!
Again, I’m happy to play what you want, but let’s also consider what this day is. A magical, memorable day that celebrates your love with your friends and family. I always suggest to lean on the side of “keeping it classy” rather than treating it like a drunken nightclub vibe.
I’ve never pushed my ideas, I am just there to guide and, as mentioned, it’s YOUR day and if there are certain songs you want that is completely fine. All I ask is that IF any of your guests complain that the “DJ played songs with swearing” you let them know it was your request instead of throwing me under the bus!
To be honest, the occasional swear word here or there isn’t too bad, but I have had couples that have wanted songs with very explicit lyrics depicting sexual acts and extreme levels of swearing. This always makes me very nervous as I scan the audience and can literally see with my eyes those that squirm and feel uncomfortable. I feel bad as I feel they are going to go away saying that “the DJ was terrible!”.
It’s a good discussion to have prior to the night on where you stand on this issue with your partner and … of course with your wedding entertainer.
